ON MY AUDIENCE

My niche audience—individuals with emotional equity who are informed by, interested in and involved with the broader humanity and embrace diversity—connect with my overriding principles of authenticity, courage and integrity. Besides, my intention is for my journey to be a light in someone’s life—for them to become the light and pass it on, similar to how countless others fuel my light and fire.

 

ON BEING VULNERABLE AND VOCAL

Talking about cupcakes, clothes and cheek tints can win you the good guy reputation and make you money, but it doesn’t require courage, and neither does it serve humanity. If anything, you remain inwardly impotent and invisible. I am VISIBLE to me, and this visibility in its totality is my VULNERABILITY, which is about my courage and life purpose.

Forgetting, passivity and silence serve cowards and spectators, and there is a sea of this willingly enslaved variety. It’s essential to remember and to be outraged by destructive issues and then direct one’s voice and actions effectively.

 

ON IMAGE AND CELEBRITY

I only know what it’s to be an imperfect human being, and I couldn’t be more proud. Since I don’t subscribe to an image, I don’t entertain people who treat me like an image and a commodity. I also know that when people lack substance and courage, they shackle themselves to an image—a transgenerational essential, especially within clans who are literate-illiterates and illiterate-ignorant. The good news is that I don’t fear the opinions or judgment of impoverished tribes.

If you appreciate any part of my being, please don’t refer to yourself as my fan. As I interpret it, the space between entertainment escapism, entitled fan-dumb and exploitative flattery is decay. When you become a something of a somebody’s fakeness, it strips you of your maturity, dignity and vitality. I want you to retain your self-respect and self-worth; I want you to go inwards, learn, grow and give back, and I want you to nurture responsibility and kindness. I want you to mindfully travel and willingly engage with the world. I want you to be doers, not followers. Please also keep in mind that films are nothing more than a fact, and a thing of the past; I don’t entertain movie/television talk. Also, I don’t watch Indian movies/television (a handful of recommended Hindi films in the last two decades)—the vacuous, lurid and infantile nature (which the makers are capable of despite stealing from foreign cinema/television) doesn’t appeal to my sensibilities. It’s essential to be in the now and celebrate fine human qualities.

 

ON BEING OFFLINE FOR AN EXTENDED PERIOD

I believe the universe designs an interim phase by placing multiple unexpected roadblocks. The aim was to get back online in spring 2020. However, matters got stalled for myriad reasons that demanded my attention, which was compounded by the unpredictability of the novel coronavirus (COVID-19) pandemic (including repeated travel cancellations). Life has multiple moving parts, and it’s not always feasible for plans to come to fruition.

From my site’s inception, in 2008, you, my readers, visited from 171 countries; I am grateful for your interest and time. I wish you will return once again, for us to continue on our journeys marked with reflection and growth, to develop our voices and cement our life purpose.

 

ON NOT SUPPORTING ARTICLE COMMENTS

The intention was to enable article comments. Unfortunately, due to lack of self–policing and hostility, the world over systems eventually streamline how they conduct operations.

 

ON PREVIOUSLY PUBLISHED AND CONVERSATIONS

The site will host a limited number of articles at any given time.

 

ON NOT FEATURING BEHIND THE SCENES

I don’t believe in reducing matters of significance to entertainment. I respect the expertise of my guests and work in alliance with them to maintain integrity. Also, off-the-record statements are not published. And where I am glad to connect them, if they desire, I don’t discuss my guests.

 

ON RESERVING THE RIGHT NOT TO FEATURE/CANCEL A CONVERSATION

Considerable resources are invested in facilitating conversations and presenting them with integrity. However, we reserve the right to cancel conversations in instances where the other party compromises integrity; disregards code of conduct; deviates from the subject matter; attempts to exploit the exchange for political punching or/and promoting products.

 

ON THE INFREQUENCY OF ARTICLES AND CONVERSATIONS

My content is not TRP [Target Rating Point] dictated or followers oriented—which is contributing to the disintegration of information and eroding the essence of life. I am intention focused and aim to connect through shared values and sensitivities with fellow humans who walk beside me, not follow. Also, serving a large picture takes considerable effort and time; thus, it’s essential to live at a pace that nourishes my soul and not by pressing demands, for others’ consumption.

 

ON SUBMITTED MESSAGES NOT BEING PUBLISHED

When you misemploy the connect form’s purpose to submit insignificant messages—inquisitive, flattering, over-familiar, entertainment-oriented and flippant—they won’t come through. Repeat submissions are harassment, thus blocked. By being indifferent, you remain irrelevant; whereas, when you are interested, you become valuable. I welcome messages from individuals who pause, think, invest, participate, support and inspire.

Also, we have edited the number of messages; if your previously published message is missing, please resubmit.

 

ON NOT ENTERTAINING SELFIES

Selfies are ludicrous, feeding self-promotion and low-culture entertainment. I have encountered people who have exploited situations (including by a doctor Ravichandran in an intensive care unit in India where my father was recovering from surgeries) to take selfies; their poor behaviour instantly cost them my respect. I can’t speak for others—those in the public eye or the general public—who are into selfies; they must have their reasons. Similarly, I expect others to respect the fact that selfies and unwarranted photography are misaligned with my values.  As the custodian of my soul, I refuse abrasive parasitic behaviour to transgress my boundaries at the cost of my wellness.

 

ON NOT GIVING INTERVIEWS

I am a private person; my website gives an accurate and adequate insight into the individual. Fact is (despite the below mentioned) I keep an open mind; I might participate in conversations in the future, provided they align with my values. If I do, I will post the link(s) here.

It’s been nearly 24 years since I have given an interview. My answers didn’t feature in the end product; instead, they were fabricated versions by contemptible people who had to survive by destroying an upward career. Equally important, as a young adult, I experienced the large-scale damage caused by media smear campaigns—sponsored by impotent misogynists and their bootlickers, and in a specific case by a once mistress of a superstar and now an insecure second wife of another in a participatory open marriage (the biggest open secret in South India)—a punishment for standing in my authority and rejecting their sum total. 

I believe it’s best to abstain from caustic platforms that cater to the lowest denominator audience, both illiterate and literate-illiterates who feel worthy of and thus are addicted to low culture.

 

ON RECEIVING HATE MESSAGES

We don’t get hate messages. From time to time, jealous specimens and the self-loathing—vandalised children in adult bodies who insist on remaining their perpetrators’ victims—project their rage and impotence through anonymity. We don’t pay heed to nondescript faceless cowards.

 

ON DEALING WITH HOSTILITY

People have varied life experiences, which shapes their opinions on a multitude of issues; I reserve the right to mine. Besides, personal tastes, aptitudes and tribes with whom we identify differ. I am glad those who don’t appreciate my content know who they are, of what they are capable and how they want to live.

What I also know is that silence, superficial consumption and pretension, as well as denial and invalidation, are essential crutches that support an outward good guy, inward suppressed and all-around cowardice existence. I can’t fault hostile people for not liking me—complex women—of integrity, authenticity, wisdom and courage are always an acquired taste.

 

ON PRIVATE MODE SOCIAL MEDIA

I am not about likes and followers. The private account is primarily to appreciate original work by individuals/groups who inspire and educate me. We will opt out of accounts that frequently repost others content and accounts with high-frequency posts, which in addition to the influx of sponsors, can be overwhelming. To all parties: thank you for respecting my commitment to Hush.